divorce

Divorce

The process of divorce is one of the most stressful events a family can face. Individuals from couples considering or in the process of divorce often want counseling for support before, during or after a divorce.  At the end of a marriage, partners are likely to have strong feelings of guilt, anger, resentment, grief and depression and anxiety.  Fears about finances, how children will cope and parenting relationships are common concerns.  Sometimes, couples seek counseling to help them to decide if the marriage can be saved or how to more amicably separate. Others might seek counseling support on how to co-parent or transition to single life.

Children are especially vulnerable to the stress from divorce. Family counseling can provide a needed opportunity for children to discuss their fears and disappointment about a divorce. Children have few safe places to discuss these adult issues.  They have no say in whether a divorce happens but sometimes blame themselves for it.

After a divorce, there are big adjustments to two households, living on less income, seeing parents less frequently and possibly blending with another family. Blended families create additional stress of step-parenting roles and step sibling relationships that require an adjustment period. Fortunately, most children and divorcing couples recover as successfully as non-divorced families within a year or two of a divorce.  Counseling provides the support to the family, parents and children to help manage the most stressful times just before or after divorce.